According to a study from the University of Scranton, just 8% of people accomplish their goals by the end of the year. I don’t know about you, but I believe that the percentage is way too small. I thought of the reasons why most of these goals fail.
Here are some ideas:
1. We set unrealistic goals.
Tony Robbins says that when there is a conflict for a goal you will either change the reality or your expectations. How realistic are your New Year’s resolutions?
2. We don’t really want them.
Many goals are wanted by the people around us or part of an “image” that we wish for ourselves. Today, being yourself is a real problem, and you can easily be trapped by the desire of others. Think again, are you sure you wish that goal? A simple test could be to think of how it would improve your life. Can’t you see any improvement?
3. We focus too much on the end result and less on the experience itself.
If your goal is to lose 10 kg, focusing on the number and adding the “weight” of waking up early in the morning for your run, will lead to the failure of the goal. An alternative could be to have to set smaller targets like losing 10 kg in 10 months (1 kg per month, meaning 250 g per week), eliminating or reducing sweets, balanced diet, and regular meals and sleep. We live in an era of “NOW”, and if we can’t obtain everything “NOW”, we leave it for “TOMORROW”.
4. Lack of support from others… and from our own person.
We need a lot of discipline to stop being affected by the distrust of other. Many have quit their dreams and now are master of telling others what they can or can’t do. If you really know your “IKIGAI” (the Japanese term for WHY) and know exactly where you’re headed, you will reach your goals. It’s just a matter of patience and persistence and not something related to the mechanics of setting goals.
5. PATIENCE! PATIENCE! PATIENCE!
The psychologists tell us that when a goal has a high level of desire it becomes part of what we are. the problem is that even our brain “believes” that we already accomplished the goal. This creates a conflict between the reality and what we consider that we should have already posses. The results: impatience. When you planned, acted step by step towards a goal and haven’t reached it yet, you should persevere with more patience. Again, don’t forget to be aware of the lack of patience when you’ll become frustrated that you haven’t reached the goal. Let it GO!
Any other reasons from your own experience are useful to be added to the list.
In the end, here’s a quote which contains all the necessary ingredients to reach your goals: “Patience, persistence, and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.” — Napoleon Hill